Why is it difficult to forget the past and move on?
31 July 2019
28 May 2019
Top five reasons why it's highly beneficial and cool to hang out with your (senior) parents
I SAW THIS UNFINISHED POST WAY BACK 2016!!!
If you're still single and in your late 20s or early 30s (heck, or even mid- to late 30s), it's never too late to hang out with your parents. However, if they get really old, the drawback is that some of their senses/organs might be failing already (e.g., poor hearing and eyesight, difficulty to talk, slower brain synapses, arrhythmia, etc.)
5. You have almost but not exactly the same level of maturity when having a conversation about life in general. I love it when Mama and/or Papa asks and CONSIDERS (asking is one thing but considering, is another) my opinion on something important like decisions regarding the family business, family problems/issues, options when buying big investments, etc.
4. You can pick out nuggets of golden wisdom from them and refine it based on your experience with today's generation. The advice your parents gives you are timeless, value-centric, principle-centred. But there are just some that you think may be outdated. Filter them BUT make sure you possess that level of discernment to know what is right and appropriate for you. As I got older, I found more sense in the advice my parents are giving me, especially how to act according to society's norms. I know I've been cursing societal norms and its restricting nature to one's sensible personal growth. But sometimes my parents are right. You need to act your age. You need to move with grace and poise and class. I have had my fair share of encountering people from different walks of life, from different regions of the world, and being gracious, poised, and classy reflects the way you were reared as a child, the environment you grew up in. Most especially it reflects your parents ability and capability to raise you. So I would do my parents proud and act with grace, poise, and class; even if I find it a bit superficial at times, haha! I guess that where my filter and discernment would come in.
3. Since they are probably in their 60s, they tend to get mellow on you and will not scold you THAT much if you've done something stupid, but not reckless, at your age. Just recently, I broached the idea of getting a tattoo (no, it's not something reckless) before I leave for my scholarship abroad. They just uttered the usual preachings about how society thinks that having a tattoo is taboo, that I'll just make my body look dirty, that it's kadire to look at, etc. After a lengthy debate with them they just said, "bahala ka na anak, malaki ka na." K I hope their succumbing statement is permanent. :D
2. They have a senior citizen discount card and if you're treating them out, it makes the bill a lot cheaper. Yes, it's a law. A senior citizen gets a whopping 32% discount (the 20% discount applies to the original price without VAT, which is 12%) on a number of items (e.g., medicine, restaurant food and drinks, some grocery items, theme park rides, parking fees, sundry items, etc.) in various establishments. When eating out with my folks, I really get surprised as to how much is slashed off from the total bill. This senior discount is really a money saver for my parents and for me, if I decide to treat them out. *fist bump here*
1. Since they have limited time left in their lives, you just have to make the most out of it and SPEND EVERY SINGLE DAY LEARNING FROM YOUR PARENTS. Soak up their 60 years of wisdom! To quote Isaac Newton, "If I have seen further than others, it is by standing upon the shoulder of giants." It's just like in research. You stand on the shoulder of the scientists that have paved the way on your research topic; build on their research so you can see further ahead. It is also true with parents. To succeed in life, you need to build on the wisdom that your parents imparted upon you. Parents only have the BEST INTENTIONS for their children (wait, let us exclude those parents who sell their children to sex and drug traffickers and also who teach their children to steal, lie, and cheat from other people).
If you're still single and in your late 20s or early 30s (heck, or even mid- to late 30s), it's never too late to hang out with your parents. However, if they get really old, the drawback is that some of their senses/organs might be failing already (e.g., poor hearing and eyesight, difficulty to talk, slower brain synapses, arrhythmia, etc.)
5. You have almost but not exactly the same level of maturity when having a conversation about life in general. I love it when Mama and/or Papa asks and CONSIDERS (asking is one thing but considering, is another) my opinion on something important like decisions regarding the family business, family problems/issues, options when buying big investments, etc.
4. You can pick out nuggets of golden wisdom from them and refine it based on your experience with today's generation. The advice your parents gives you are timeless, value-centric, principle-centred. But there are just some that you think may be outdated. Filter them BUT make sure you possess that level of discernment to know what is right and appropriate for you. As I got older, I found more sense in the advice my parents are giving me, especially how to act according to society's norms. I know I've been cursing societal norms and its restricting nature to one's sensible personal growth. But sometimes my parents are right. You need to act your age. You need to move with grace and poise and class. I have had my fair share of encountering people from different walks of life, from different regions of the world, and being gracious, poised, and classy reflects the way you were reared as a child, the environment you grew up in. Most especially it reflects your parents ability and capability to raise you. So I would do my parents proud and act with grace, poise, and class; even if I find it a bit superficial at times, haha! I guess that where my filter and discernment would come in.
3. Since they are probably in their 60s, they tend to get mellow on you and will not scold you THAT much if you've done something stupid, but not reckless, at your age. Just recently, I broached the idea of getting a tattoo (no, it's not something reckless) before I leave for my scholarship abroad. They just uttered the usual preachings about how society thinks that having a tattoo is taboo, that I'll just make my body look dirty, that it's kadire to look at, etc. After a lengthy debate with them they just said, "bahala ka na anak, malaki ka na." K I hope their succumbing statement is permanent. :D
2. They have a senior citizen discount card and if you're treating them out, it makes the bill a lot cheaper. Yes, it's a law. A senior citizen gets a whopping 32% discount (the 20% discount applies to the original price without VAT, which is 12%) on a number of items (e.g., medicine, restaurant food and drinks, some grocery items, theme park rides, parking fees, sundry items, etc.) in various establishments. When eating out with my folks, I really get surprised as to how much is slashed off from the total bill. This senior discount is really a money saver for my parents and for me, if I decide to treat them out. *fist bump here*
1. Since they have limited time left in their lives, you just have to make the most out of it and SPEND EVERY SINGLE DAY LEARNING FROM YOUR PARENTS. Soak up their 60 years of wisdom! To quote Isaac Newton, "If I have seen further than others, it is by standing upon the shoulder of giants." It's just like in research. You stand on the shoulder of the scientists that have paved the way on your research topic; build on their research so you can see further ahead. It is also true with parents. To succeed in life, you need to build on the wisdom that your parents imparted upon you. Parents only have the BEST INTENTIONS for their children (wait, let us exclude those parents who sell their children to sex and drug traffickers and also who teach their children to steal, lie, and cheat from other people).
25 May 2019
My theme for 2019: CONSISTENCY
UNFINISHED POST.
I've been ruminating on what my word theme for 2019 will be. I remember I made frugality a theme for 2013. Was I able to follow it? Well, looking at my finances now, I am not quite sure, hahaha! Perhaps I really need to create a logical framework for monitoring and evaluation purposes! Grabe, the things I learn at work (and I love it!)
For this year, I've decided to take on the theme CONSISTENCY. I've realised I create so many personal resolutions within the year only to see it not develop into a habit. YES, that's it, consistency will create HABITS.
Though I am sure that I will falter in many attempts, there are actions that I need to be consistent in. These are:
1. Consistency in punctuality
Well, I am consistent naman in this aspect. Consistent in being tardy! For 2019 dapat I should be consistent in punctuality na. I should be on time at work, meetings, dates, events, and gatherings.
Punctuality also entails being compliant with deadlines.
2. Consistency in spending
I am not allowed to avail of the following this year:
a. Pricey shoes
b. Pricey clothing and/or jewelry
c. Pricey concerts
d. Pricey Grab service unless I do not have any choice
e. Pricey bags
f. Unnecessary activities that siphon out my money
However, I will treat myself to:
a. Local and international travels
b. Pricey hobbies such as SCUBA diving, enrolling in dance and gym classes
c. Pricey dates and staycations with Mico, family, and friends
3. Consistency in exercising
4. Consistency in what and how much I eat
Consistency forms habits.
I've been ruminating on what my word theme for 2019 will be. I remember I made frugality a theme for 2013. Was I able to follow it? Well, looking at my finances now, I am not quite sure, hahaha! Perhaps I really need to create a logical framework for monitoring and evaluation purposes! Grabe, the things I learn at work (and I love it!)
For this year, I've decided to take on the theme CONSISTENCY. I've realised I create so many personal resolutions within the year only to see it not develop into a habit. YES, that's it, consistency will create HABITS.
Though I am sure that I will falter in many attempts, there are actions that I need to be consistent in. These are:
1. Consistency in punctuality
Well, I am consistent naman in this aspect. Consistent in being tardy! For 2019 dapat I should be consistent in punctuality na. I should be on time at work, meetings, dates, events, and gatherings.
Punctuality also entails being compliant with deadlines.
2. Consistency in spending
I am not allowed to avail of the following this year:
a. Pricey shoes
b. Pricey clothing and/or jewelry
c. Pricey concerts
d. Pricey Grab service unless I do not have any choice
e. Pricey bags
f. Unnecessary activities that siphon out my money
However, I will treat myself to:
a. Local and international travels
b. Pricey hobbies such as SCUBA diving, enrolling in dance and gym classes
c. Pricey dates and staycations with Mico, family, and friends
3. Consistency in exercising
4. Consistency in what and how much I eat
Consistency forms habits.
My (mis)adventures walking around UP on a humid day
UNFINISHED POST.
So I went to UP last Monday, 2 April, to claim my graduate diploma at the College of Science Graduate Office after my interview at PHIVOLCS.
It was so humid that day because it just finished raining and the surroundings were hazy and you can still see the mist. The air was stuffy and it was warm. I developed a flu the next day after walking for hours around campus.
From PHIVOLCS, I walked all the way to the checkpoint, that's about a kilometre, then rode the ikot going to the Science Complex and walked about 400m to the office. That trip alone was enough to make me ill. I inhaled all the pollution and whatever bacteria was present in the air. Joskoh sa bahagi ng Hardin ng Bogambilya (yung kalye ng FA) at CP Garcia ka ba naman dumaan.
I arrived at the office and my diploma was handed to me and as I was about to sign the receipt letter, I was told that I haven't been cleared with the Registrar's Office yet! *I was actually wondering why I was able to attend the graduation ceremony without paying for anything. Yun pala yun! Hahaha!* So they retracted my diploma and I was sent on a wild goose chase around UP: first to the OUR then to the Cashier's Office in SC, then back to the OUR. For those who know the route, it's not easy to go to the OUR without the TOKI! :( Ang haba ng lalakarin! And take note, the roads were being repaired so imagine all the dust floating in the air, huhuhu. My lungs!!!
And so I decided to walk from the Graduate Office to the OUR. Since I haven't eaten anything yet from the time I woke up, I decided to stop by this wow-where-did-you-come-from comfort food eatery (aka fishballan) along Velasquez St., right beside IEEE. Yes, apparently yung dating bahay dun giniba na at ginawang maliit na kainan. Edi super shookt si acoe kaya napatigil acoe para lumamon, este, kumain. I ordered pancit canton, chicken ball, cheese sticks, and a small bottle of Coke (medyo bitin pero sige na nga). Ah. The UP student's staple food. Pero in fairness ang mahal ha! This meal cost me 72 pesos! Oo mahal na yan! Isipin mo 72 pesos para sa street food! Dati 50 pesos lang sobrang tiba-tiba ka na sa canton at mga balls! Namiss ko yung ganitong pagkain but at the same time, the 32-year old tita in me was crying for good and healthy food to be eaten in a place with good furniture, servers to serve your food, and a relaxed ambience like Chocolate Kiss. But since it has been a long time when I last ate this kind of fare, I tried to enjoy it.
To make my dining even more enjoyable, I was graced by the presence of a beautiful and muscular tom cat. He was surly and snobbish in the beginning but when I offered him my delectable dish, he came near me and started chomping away! Poor tabby tom was hungry! After feeding, I tried to make these come-hither meow sounds and motioned my hands for him to come to me. Aba eh may lambing pala 'tong pusang 'to sa katawan niya! Pambihira! So this is what Tabby Tom looks like:
Ang lambing lambing niya, nakakatuwa! But it was already 3:30PM and I needed to sort out my clearance. So I proceeded to the OUR passing through NISMED and I again saw some cats. It's a CAT STOP (instead of pit stop)! I patted the cats and called them but these ones made me hold them only for a short while then off again I went. Inhaling some dirt from the road repair, I arrived at the OUR with sweat on my back and armpits. Joskoh ang inet abot hanggang singet! Entering the building I saw some more cats! Yey! There was this geriatric tom cat who was very sweet and approached me with a springy gait, as if he's just like an adolescent cat! There was another cute female tortoiseshell who had soft hair and was playful. She would lick my hand every time I scratch her underbelly and I could feel the roughness of her tongue. Super cute! Every cat lover knows that when these barb-like thingies on a cat's tongue would graze over their hooman's skin, you know your cat has affection for you. Here's our photo together:
So I went to UP last Monday, 2 April, to claim my graduate diploma at the College of Science Graduate Office after my interview at PHIVOLCS.
It was so humid that day because it just finished raining and the surroundings were hazy and you can still see the mist. The air was stuffy and it was warm. I developed a flu the next day after walking for hours around campus.
From PHIVOLCS, I walked all the way to the checkpoint, that's about a kilometre, then rode the ikot going to the Science Complex and walked about 400m to the office. That trip alone was enough to make me ill. I inhaled all the pollution and whatever bacteria was present in the air. Joskoh sa bahagi ng Hardin ng Bogambilya (yung kalye ng FA) at CP Garcia ka ba naman dumaan.
I arrived at the office and my diploma was handed to me and as I was about to sign the receipt letter, I was told that I haven't been cleared with the Registrar's Office yet! *I was actually wondering why I was able to attend the graduation ceremony without paying for anything. Yun pala yun! Hahaha!* So they retracted my diploma and I was sent on a wild goose chase around UP: first to the OUR then to the Cashier's Office in SC, then back to the OUR. For those who know the route, it's not easy to go to the OUR without the TOKI! :( Ang haba ng lalakarin! And take note, the roads were being repaired so imagine all the dust floating in the air, huhuhu. My lungs!!!
And so I decided to walk from the Graduate Office to the OUR. Since I haven't eaten anything yet from the time I woke up, I decided to stop by this wow-where-did-you-come-from comfort food eatery (aka fishballan) along Velasquez St., right beside IEEE. Yes, apparently yung dating bahay dun giniba na at ginawang maliit na kainan. Edi super shookt si acoe kaya napatigil acoe para lumamon, este, kumain. I ordered pancit canton, chicken ball, cheese sticks, and a small bottle of Coke (medyo bitin pero sige na nga). Ah. The UP student's staple food. Pero in fairness ang mahal ha! This meal cost me 72 pesos! Oo mahal na yan! Isipin mo 72 pesos para sa street food! Dati 50 pesos lang sobrang tiba-tiba ka na sa canton at mga balls! Namiss ko yung ganitong pagkain but at the same time, the 32-year old tita in me was crying for good and healthy food to be eaten in a place with good furniture, servers to serve your food, and a relaxed ambience like Chocolate Kiss. But since it has been a long time when I last ate this kind of fare, I tried to enjoy it.
To make my dining even more enjoyable, I was graced by the presence of a beautiful and muscular tom cat. He was surly and snobbish in the beginning but when I offered him my delectable dish, he came near me and started chomping away! Poor tabby tom was hungry! After feeding, I tried to make these come-hither meow sounds and motioned my hands for him to come to me. Aba eh may lambing pala 'tong pusang 'to sa katawan niya! Pambihira! So this is what Tabby Tom looks like:
Ang lambing lambing niya, nakakatuwa! But it was already 3:30PM and I needed to sort out my clearance. So I proceeded to the OUR passing through NISMED and I again saw some cats. It's a CAT STOP (instead of pit stop)! I patted the cats and called them but these ones made me hold them only for a short while then off again I went. Inhaling some dirt from the road repair, I arrived at the OUR with sweat on my back and armpits. Joskoh ang inet abot hanggang singet! Entering the building I saw some more cats! Yey! There was this geriatric tom cat who was very sweet and approached me with a springy gait, as if he's just like an adolescent cat! There was another cute female tortoiseshell who had soft hair and was playful. She would lick my hand every time I scratch her underbelly and I could feel the roughness of her tongue. Super cute! Every cat lover knows that when these barb-like thingies on a cat's tongue would graze over their hooman's skin, you know your cat has affection for you. Here's our photo together:
24 May 2019
Today's Thoughts
UNFINISHED POST
1. Focus. Focus. Focus.
1. Focus. Focus. Focus.
Sometimes my mind goes blank. Sometimes or perhaps a lot of times. I always have this problem of focusing while working. I saw a TEDx video explaining that willingness and awareness of surroundings are ways of changing bad habits. I just need to be more aware of the present and be willing to focus. I can do this!!!
2. Meeting with RUS
Today I sat down with my mentor to discuss our ground rules and our mentor-mentee relationship. I feel overjoyed and honoured to have Dr. Solidum, PHIVOLCS Director, as my mentor for my Australia Awards Scholarship. Imagine, the institute director is my mentor! Haha. Ang saya-saya ko. I like it to be this way because I will feel pressured and compelled to finish my degree
22 May 2019
13 March 2019
Today's thoughts
I'm so happy.
I am so happy and in love with the person I am with.
I remember the times when I was in so much pain and anguish and I wished these feeling to disappear but they wouldn't so in my head, thoughts of taking my life swirled, already having a plan on how to execute it but I discussed the matter with my parents, what I was feeling and I was surprised at their reaction because they were calm and composed, especially my mom, she handled me like a pro; she didn't find my plan ludicrous nor did she get angry why I even thought of that and she was just cool about it but I sensed her worry and alarm in the tone of her voice; she even suggested for me to seek professional help and it was so calming and comforting that an epiphany came over me and decided that it's beyond crazy to take my own life because I cannot tolerate the pain anymore--- that is crazy, looking back, but hey, it is something valid and every person is allowed to feel what s/he wants to feel and no one should dictate what they should do rather, they should be guided how to discern, how to make self-realisations because you want them to own up and stand by their own decisions and yes, I am writing this paragraph without any period.
I am so happy I let myself feel the pain; wallow in it; embrace the pain and finally let go; such a liberating feeling because freeing myself from all hurt made me fall in love again and what a beautiful love we have because of a myriad of reasons: I've fallen in love with someone who gives me much joy and love; who appreciates my efforts and my achievements; who is goal- and family-oriented, and witty, and handsome; but most important, someone who is God-fearing, kind-hearted, and funny and I cannot ask for more.
I am so happy and in love with the person I am with.
I'm so happy.
I am so happy and in love with the person I am with.
I remember the times when I was in so much pain and anguish and I wished these feeling to disappear but they wouldn't so in my head, thoughts of taking my life swirled, already having a plan on how to execute it but I discussed the matter with my parents, what I was feeling and I was surprised at their reaction because they were calm and composed, especially my mom, she handled me like a pro; she didn't find my plan ludicrous nor did she get angry why I even thought of that and she was just cool about it but I sensed her worry and alarm in the tone of her voice; she even suggested for me to seek professional help and it was so calming and comforting that an epiphany came over me and decided that it's beyond crazy to take my own life because I cannot tolerate the pain anymore--- that is crazy, looking back, but hey, it is something valid and every person is allowed to feel what s/he wants to feel and no one should dictate what they should do rather, they should be guided how to discern, how to make self-realisations because you want them to own up and stand by their own decisions and yes, I am writing this paragraph without any period.
I am so happy I let myself feel the pain; wallow in it; embrace the pain and finally let go; such a liberating feeling because freeing myself from all hurt made me fall in love again and what a beautiful love we have because of a myriad of reasons: I've fallen in love with someone who gives me much joy and love; who appreciates my efforts and my achievements; who is goal- and family-oriented, and witty, and handsome; but most important, someone who is God-fearing, kind-hearted, and funny and I cannot ask for more.
I am so happy and in love with the person I am with.
I'm so happy.
05 February 2019
Current song mood
This song is so millennial but the beat is just real good.
ILYSB
LANY
ILYSB
LANY
Ain't never felt this way
Can't get enough so stay with me
It's not like we got big plans
Let's drive around town holding hands
Can't get enough so stay with me
It's not like we got big plans
Let's drive around town holding hands
And you need to know
You're the only one, alright alright
And you need to know
That you keep me up all night, all night
You're the only one, alright alright
And you need to know
That you keep me up all night, all night
Oh, my heart hurts so good
I love you, babe, so bad, so bad
Oh, oh my heart hurts so good
I love you, babe, so bad, so bad
I love you, babe, so bad, so bad
Oh, oh my heart hurts so good
I love you, babe, so bad, so bad
Mad cool in all my clothes
Mad warm when you get close to me
Slow dance these summer nights
Our disco ball's my kitchen light
Mad warm when you get close to me
Slow dance these summer nights
Our disco ball's my kitchen light
And you need to know
That nobody could take your place, your place
And you need to know
That I'm hella obsessed with your face, your face
That nobody could take your place, your place
And you need to know
That I'm hella obsessed with your face, your face
Oh, my heart hurts so good
I love you, babe, so bad, so bad
Oh, oh my heart hurts so good
I love you, babe, so bad, so bad
Oh, oh my heart hurts so good
I love you, babe, so bad, so bad, oh
I love you, babe, so bad, so bad
Oh, oh my heart hurts so good
I love you, babe, so bad, so bad
Oh, oh my heart hurts so good
I love you, babe, so bad, so bad, oh
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